When a client comes to me because they have 'hit rock bottom' and life as they know it has collapsed and become unbearable, I always - respectfully and gently- congratulate them.
It is a strange truth and trait in our human psyche that we tend to postpone change until it is no longer possible and until it is then forced upon us.
'Rock bottom' is rarely a sudden event. It builds slowly and often over a period of years as we witness our lives becoming increasingly unbearable - but we think we can go a little further. Endure a little longer. Suffer just that little bit more each day and work hard to maintain the unacceptable status quo at any cost. Over and over we postpone reaching out, asking for help, and initiating change.
"As long as things are possible we postpone them." writes Marcel Proust.
Then, when suffering is saturated to the point of crisis and incremental change is no longer possible, and shifted and shaken by forces that feel greater than ourselves, life suddenly collapses and the identity that we had constructed -our belief systems, map of the world and even our understanding of the order of the universe- gets razed to the ground.
We become naked.
When 'the tower' collapses it can feel sickening and traumatic.
Yet from my own life experience, and my experience as a coach, I also know that 'rock bottom' is solid ground.
In fact, NOTHING is more solid.
IT IS EXACTLY AT THAT MOMENT WHEN WE LOSE EVERYTHING THAT WE CAN DISCOVER THAT WHICH CANNOT BE LOST.
We can rebuild with what can never be lost.
THIS is the deeper meaning of the tower moment.
This is the divine gift hidden in the pain.
The loss is liberation in disguise.
We can seize this crisis as an opportunity for radical reinvention and new growth.
If your life feels unmanageable and you would like help with rebuilding and creating an amazing life, a life that you truly love, and one that will make you look back at your darkest moment with gratitude,